On the other side of the same coin, it may be time that you reevaluate your current relationship. Remember that you are not doing him, yourself or even your children any good by remaining in a harmful or unhappy relationship. It may seem like a daunting and insurmountable concept but getting divorced in your 40's by no means the end of the world. Did you know that the average divorce age for women in the United States is 42? It is definitely not uncommon and there is definitely life after a divorce in your 40's.
Ending A Detrimental Relationship
On the other side of the same coin, it may be time that you reevaluate your current relationship. Remember that you are not doing him, yourself or even your children any good by remaining in a harmful or unhappy relationship. It may seem like a daunting and insurmountable concept but getting divorced in your 40’s by no means the end of the world. Did you know that the average divorce age for women in the United States is 42? It is definitely not uncommon and there is definitely life after a divorce in your 40’s.
Escaping a bad marriage is especially important if you have children. Many divorced mothers say that the best lesson they could teach their children is to be happy. If you are not happy, your children pick up on it and accept it as the norm. The initial shock of a divorce is traumatizing for everyone but there is a better life on the other end for everyone if you are unhappy in your marriage. Even if you don’t have any children you are not doing your husband any favors by remaining in a relationship that you can feel is going nowhere.
If you are considering divorce one of the best things you can do is consult a female friend who has also gone through the process. Their insight and advice to you will surely be invaluable. Many women are shepherded through painful divorce by friends and family members who know the feelings that are associated with such a hard separation.
There are lots of important things to consider during a divorce especially if you have children. Most mothers instinctively fight for full custody of their children but unless the father is abusive, you shouldn’t jump to this stance immediately. For one thing if you are a 40 something in the throes of a divorce and have children, you probably haven’t had any time to yourself in a long time. Your children also need their father in their lives so consider a fair custody agreement. You will find the added free time will help you discover yourself again, regain your confidence and help you get back on the dating scene.
Defining yourself apart from a role in a marriage can be difficult but this is why time to yourself after a separation is key. You are still an individual but you may have to re-discover yourself. Take time to pursue your own interests and get back in touch with yourself before you get start dating again. This will give you a clearer picture as to who you are, what you want and maybe even provide a little insight as to why your marriage became an unhappy one.
Once you feel that you are in a good place after your divorce and feel ready to start meeting new people it is important not to slip into any old bad habits. It is important to take your time. Resist the urge to jump at the first man who shows interest. Focus on what you learned and what you want and don’t compromise. Remember that there are plenty of eligible bachelors out there who are the same age as you so never feel that you have to settle because of your age.
You should also be aware that younger men are increasingly becoming involved with older women. In other words your dating age range does not have to feel limited. Have fun and know that you can date anyone you want so long as you keep your own criteria at the forefront of your mind. Finally, know that common interests are only skin-deep. A real connection comes from meeting a person that exhibits the character traits that you desire in a man. You may like the same music, art, food and movies as a man but at this age you should know that these are fleeting bonds that do not necessarily stand the test of time.